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Dating Violence:
when someone you are in a romantic/intimate relationship with
kicks, slaps, hits, or shoves you, these are some
physical
instances of dating
violence. If that person keeps you away from friends and family, shames you,
calls you names, bullies, or publically embarrasses you on purpose, these are
psychological and emotional
examples of abuse/violence.
Domestic Violence:
(see examples above) can be committed by: a current
or former spouse/partner; a person with whom you share a child; against a
legally protected adult or child. Most abusive relationships are characterized by
possessive and controlling behaviors.
Stalking:
when someone engages in a course of conduct directed at a specific
person that causes that person to fear for his/her safety or the safety of others.
Behaviors may include:
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Threats to harm you, family or friends
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Showing up or driving by where you are
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Following you
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Monitoring your phone or computer use
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Using technology to track you
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Damaging your home or property
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Spreading rumors about you online, in public, or by word of mouth
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Digging for information about you
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Sending unwanted gifts, notes, texts, phone calls, or emails (two or more
unwanted text messages, emails, etc. that cause fear is considered
stalking).
Bystander Intervention:
All students, faculty and staff should learn to recognize
troublesome situations and intervene in a simple and safe manner, including:
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Provide a distraction that interrupts an action
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Directly engage one or more parties involved
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Get Campus Security involved
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Get a friend to assist in helping
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Ask the person in a potentially dangerous situation if he/she is OK and/
or wants to leave
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Make sure a person gets home safely
All students, faculty and staff should learn to be proactive bystanders:
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Speak up when you overhear bragging, jokes, or stories glorifying sexual
violence
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Treat people with respect (second greatest command)
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Watch out for your friends at parties – don’t go to those kind of parties!
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Educate yourselves and your friends
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Talk to and challenge friends about confronting sexual and relational
violence
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Be a knowledgeable resource for survivors.
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